: Grace Whitfield
: Divorced Yet Not Forsaken Rising up from the ashes of divorce to rediscover God's perfect plan for your life
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Divorced Yet Not Forsaken is a faith-based memoir and spiritual reflection on surviving divorce while maintaining trust in God's guidance and provision. Through personal narrative, the author recounts the end of a thirty-four-year marriage, the financial and emotional consequences that followed, and the gradual process of healing through prayer, Scripture, family support, and renewed purpose. The book presents parallel perspectives from both former spouses, offering insight into marital conflict, personal responsibility, midlife crisis, and the long-term impact of unresolved anger and misplaced priorities. Biblical passages are woven throughout the narrative to frame divorce not only as loss, but as a period of spiritual testing, growth, and realignment. Written for Christian men and women navigating separation, grief, loneliness, or identity changes after divorce, the book combines testimony, devotional reflection, and practical observations about forgiveness, financial rebuilding, emotional recovery, and faith. The tone is reflective and instructive rather than theoretical, addressing common stages of grief, depression, bitterness, and acceptance while emphasizing perseverance, accountability, and hope. Suitable for individuals seeking a biblically grounded perspective on divorce and restoration, the book explores how faith, family reconciliation, and renewed purpose can shape life after the death of a marriage.

CHAPTER 1
Barbara’S Story


Storms Will Come


"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash." (Matthew 7:24-27)

In this Scripture, Jesus warns us to be careful about how we build our lives because storms would come to test whether we built our lives upon His words or with inferior materials. These storms can take on many different faces. Some storms can occur when a loved one dies, for another, it can happen when they receive the news of cancer. It can come through a job loss, a failed relationship, or a significant life disappointment that rocks your world. For me, it happened when my thirty-four-year marriage ended in divorce. My divorce threw me into a financial and emotional storm I had not prepared for.

My divorce didn't happen overnight, but after years of intercessory prayers asking the Lord to save it. Instead of my prayers being answered the way I had hoped for, everything precious to me that I had worked on for years was crashing before my eyes, and I felt helpless to stop this crash. But was I? The storm did come, but I could still choose to put God's Word into practice, trusting Him for an outcome that would glorify Him and save all that I held dear to my heart.

How we go through our storm will determine our outcome, just as much as how we built our lives, to begin with. These storms are only tests to see if we will continue to stand firm for the Lord during our times of adversity. By faith, we must keep our eyes focused on Jesus and His words, and not on the scary storm. We must put into practice all that we have learned prior to our time of testing if we are to come forth victorious.

My Story


On August 10, 1974, I married my high school sweetheart. I entered the marriage with dreams of having many exciting life adventures, holding hands with my new husband. However, that dream was short lived. Reality set in immediately as we had to deal with paying bills, leaving no money for fun. Life's pressures started there and never seemed to lift. Those pressures turned us against each other, and we started fighting.

Seven years into the marriage, our fighting had only increased and was wearing on me. I remembered looking in the mirror and was shocked to see how much I had aged in a few short years. I had done everything I could to try to fix our marriage, including going back to church. Even though I did experience some peace at church, it never seemed to change our lives. It was at that time that I met a Christian who shared her faith with me. I remember being very impressed as I listened to her talk about God and Jesus. It was like Jesus was her best friend who she talked to daily. She told me stories of miraculous answers to her prayers and those of other church members. It seemed to me that when she prayed, she actually believed God heard her prayers, whereas when I prayed, I merely hoped God heard my prayers.

After observing her for about six months, I decided that I needed what she had, and I asked Jesus to come into my life. I went home and asked my husband to do the same, and he agreed.

Did things between us get better? Yes and no. We did have a new rule book, the Bible, to help us make different decisions, but we still had our issues. Our hurts and patterns of behavior were still there. Even so, I experienced a feeling of peace I had been desperate for, and that peace kept me wanting more.

Shortly after our decision to invite Christ