Introducing rest-do days
A rest-do day is a practical approach to living with fatigue. By seeking a balance between resting and doing, I’ve learned how torest more regularly. On the same day, I’ll also be able todo the activities that are necessary to life and those that make mydays worth living. A life worth living involves doing more than existing and surviving. When I rest, often I ask myself what am I resting? It could be any of my capacities: to speak, to move, to think and many more. I can also ask myself what I am taking a break from? Often I am aware of needing to have a rest from worries, noise and busy times.
Rest-do days are a simple and flexible approach to make our daily lives interesting and satisfying. They are not a quick fix, but if you’re experiencing fatigue and there is not much prospect of recovery, it can be a relief to imagine doing anything satisfying in the foreseeable future. My rest-do days habit has seen me through many changes and challenges over the past seven years and I am not giving it up. I am so fascinated by the process that I’ve written this book.
As well as resting more regularly, I attend to the demands of my everyday activities. When I do something like take a sip of a drink, I am making demands on myself – using my senses, energy and many capacities to move and think. The demands vary depending on the activity. Too often activities are assumed to be physical exercise, but we are much more than muscles and bones. In this book any kind of doing is understood as an activity with varied demands.
There are many influences on what we do and why. Activities which we value can offer respite from fatigue, especially if we have control over what to do and how to do it.1 Your fatigue might be associated with health problems like a heart condition, stroke, autoimmune disease, cancer, depression, long COVID, or difficult times that seem to go on and on. For rest-do days, it does not matter why you are experiencing fatigue.
It is important to let go of the idea that rest is the same as sleep, a time when we are inactive.2 Often in research, sleep and rest are assumed to be the same thing. In everyday life, seeing rest as a time when we can do less demanding activities is helpful. There are other misunderstandings about fatigue which I’ve explored in this book. Those misunderstandings can mak