: Debra K. Carter
: Coparenting After Divorce A GPS for Healthy Kids
: Unhooked Books
: 9781936268894
: 1
: CHF 9.40
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: Partnerschaft, Sexualität
: English
: 186
: DRM
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Divorce is not something that happens once in a courtroom. It is a lifetime change for everyone in the family. Old patterns have to be changed and new patterns have to be tried out and then kept or thrown away. Using a GPS analogy, CoParenting After Divorce: A GPS for Healthy Kids presents a road map to making changes in the new family system, either with or without the help of a parenting coordinator. Included are: - Explanations of the process - Examples of parenting coordination - Self-assessment exercises to help parents assess their own behaviors - Specific tools to help improve communication, focus on children's needs, and resolve parenting issues - Develop a customized parenting plan The whole family will benefit from this dynamic, scientifically-supported information. It will help parents understand the benefits parenting coordination; how to track factors important for children's development; how and when to adjust the parenting plan; and how to handle bumps in the road and avoid common mistakes!
CHAPTER ONE
Parenting Coordination:
The GPS (Guidance for Parenting System) Model
When planning a trip, it’s a good idea to know the destination ahead of time. Where are you going? What route do you want to take? Will it be direct, or do you want to take a scenic byway? Where can you get gas, food, or emergency help along the way?
It’s the same when planning for your child’s future during or after adivorce. Knowing your destination is the most important part of planning. Even if you and your ex, or soon-to-be ex-spouse or partner, cannot agree on much of anything, you can usually agree on where (and what) you want your child to be.
•   “Parker should have a good education.”
•   “Pamela should stay healthy.”
•   “Parker should be a good citizen.”
Agreeing on what you are interested in for your children takes away the “right” or “wrong” from parenting decisions. It changes how you think about parenting. Focusing on your children—what is best for them, even if it may be hard for you—will help ensure that your children reach their destination of healthy, happy adults.
When you are not sure how to get to a certain place, a GPS is a good tool. Enter in the address where you want to go, and the GPS will tell you how to get there, turn by turn. This book will introduce the Guidance for Parenting System, a road map for parents of divorce. The GPS in this case is aParenting Plan, put in place and monitored by a Parenting Coordinator. (Even if you’re not working with a Parenting Coordinator, you can use this book as a resource for parenting after divorce.)
What Does a Parenting Coordinator Do?
A Parenting Coordinator is a professional who helps parents map out the plan for their children during and after divorce. The Parenting Coordinator can be a lawyer,mediator, psychologist, social worker, or mental health professional. This is a person who ha